I met Shirleen Perry after we followed the girls to some apartments on
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| Shirleen |
1st South.
After introductions and making the girls at ease in our company, we
asked them to go for a ride. A couple of them needed to go elsewhere,
but Shirleen and her younger sister, Lanette, agreed to go with us. Shirleen said she had plans for that evening so she couldn't be gone too long. Before we returned them back to their apartment, I asked her for a date for the following weekend. I continued to ask her for a date as often as possible. I got to know her family. I found them to be fun and easy to know. I took her home to meet Kent and Mother.
Before I came home from France, I had started to look ahead and think about what I was going to do with my life. I wanted a family, extended family, to be near my own family, and the church. I had even thought of making the Air Force my career, then I realized I'd be continually around the rough environment that the military is known for. Such as swearing, dirty language, immorality, etc. I really didn't want that. The smallest of offenses, such as not making a bed correctly, cleaning a room, dust on shoes, a bad sunburn etc. could be grounds to being court marshaled, which would result in a dishonorable discharge. Receiving a honorable discharge was very important. Applications for jobs, loans, and schooling would include military information. "Did you serve in the military? Do you have an honorable discharge?" Not only for the mentioned reasons it would be a stressful career for a family! I continued to ponder my options after I returned home.
I'd taken some classes as a freshman at the University of Utah before leaving the States, so I considered going back to school and get a degree. I could go into traffic control but likely that meant a life of living in a city and controlling the sky traffic and runways which is a high stress career. Staying with Standard Stations was never an option for a life-long career. It was a hobby and a job to help get started in life. I was feeling it was time to settle down and get my life headed in another direction. Ray was married and having his family and was successfully supporting them. It can be mentally taxing as a young man prepares to start a family.
I found a '47 Chev 1/2 ton truck that I could afford so I could do some hauling. The engine had a lot of dirt on it. After I cleaned and sprayed the engine, it shone like a silver dollar. It cleaned up very nice. It had a straight six engine and I kept it until I moved to Salt Lake City and then I traded the '47 truck for a '57 Chev 1/2 ton.
I decided to try the University of Utah again so I transferred to a Standard Station on 13th South and 13th East. I found an apartment in back of a house on 13th South and about 3rd East. The nightly traffic going by would vibrate my bed. I should have known going to the University of Utah wouldn't work out. After one quarter, I knew I would need a smaller college with smaller classes and quieter sleep hours. I begin to think of another college or university, and had even driven to Rexburg, Idaho to check out the possibility of attending Ricks College. Once I got there and looked around I didn't feel that was the answer. Shirleen had received her degree at the College of Southern Utah in Cedar City, Utah and had told me that she'd liked it. The professors at the U of U would hire a graduate student for each class to take notes. The graduate would then write the test, grade them and pass the results back to the professor. With a large class of fifty to sixty students, a person wouldn't be able to get any help from the professor.
The Standard Station on 13th East and 13th South was new, but it was built on a small hill. During the first good rain storm, the water came in the front door, through the lube bay and out the other side and down the road. The engineers had not actually thought things through wisely.
On my way to and from work, I would pass a dress shop. It had a small window right by the road and they had a gold dress on display. I thought, "that looks good." I would notice it more at night. The lights in the shop would illuminate it. With Christmas coming, I thought it would make a nice gift for Shirleen.
Kati Marie Van Leuven Johnstun, our beautiful oldest granddaughter, is modeling the dress in the pictures below. The dress had a dinner coat that could be worn over the dress.
On New Year's Eve 1963, we went to the LDS New Year's Eve dance in Vernal. Leaving a little before midnight we rode to the lookout point on Highway 40, just coming into Vernal from Roosevelt. This is the same place we had driven to on the day we had met. I reached across to the jockey box and pulled out the engagement ring. I told her we were starting a new year and and this year can be a new life for us if she'd say yes to my request. I asked her to marry me. Of course, she didn't say no because here we are after fifty some odd years.
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| Our wedding bands match. |
One Sunday, Shirleen and I were attending Sacrament meeting in Vernal. Before the meeting started, the bishop came over to speak to us. He said that he had thought to ask me if I wanted to serve a LDS mission but he noticed the engagement ring on Shirleen's finger and could see that I was going to start a mission of my own.
We started to make wedding plans. Shirleen finished teaching that school year. We had set a date of July 10, 1964 to be married in the Salt Lake Temple.
We drove to Cedar City, to check the possibilities of me finishing school at the College of Southern. It looked very favorable and we felt good about it. I enrolled to start school at CSU (today it is Southern Utah University). Shirleen tried to find a teaching position but they did not have any openings. It was very hard to find a position in a college town. Once hired, the teachers would hang on to their positions, because they knew if they left Iron School District it would be difficult or next to impossible to get hired again. She applied and we hoped but, it looked very doubtful. The school district had many other job applications ahead of hers. The other school district was in St. George. It was another college town and was quite a drive from Cedar City so we didn't even consider that as an option. I got a job at a Standard Station in Cedar City and we found an older home with three apartments. The apartments had their own main entrance. We were lucky to get the front apartment. Another couple (Corry's) lived in the apartment behind us. Then there was a basement apartment a single student seemed to live there, though we seldom saw him. It was on a quiet street, near work, near the campus and had quiet neighbors.